How Do You Become Who You Want to Be? : The Science Behind Identity, Purpose, and Motivation

    Recorded on: Jun 12, 2025

    Description

    Our personal concept of identity shapes every decision we make – ranging from life-altering choices to our smallest daily preferences. Identity influences our values, the relationships we build, and how we respond to an increasingly unpredictable world, whether in constructive or destructive ways. But how are these identities formed, and how might we take a more deliberate role in cultivating a healthy sense of self – and therefore a healthier way of relating to the world?

    In this episode, Nate is joined by social neuroscientist Taylor Guthrie to delve into the neuroscience of identity, exploring how the brain constructs a sense of self and the implications for our modern societal challenges. They discuss the role of values and personal narrative in identity formation, the impact of technology and consumerism on self-perception, and the distinction between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation as they relate to purpose and success.

    How is today’s consumer culture undermining our ability to actively participate in the development of our own identities? Could a better understanding of how we think about ourselves be key to fostering better relationships with others? Ultimately, how could purposeful reflection – about who we are and who we want to be – lead to lives that are richer in connection, community, and fulfillment?

    About Taylor Guthrie

    Taylor D. Guthrie, PhD, is a social cognitive neuroscientist who studies how the human brain constructs a sense of self, both individually and in relationship with others. Taylor’s work bridges neuroscience, psychology, and culture. He investigates how attention and value systems interact with brain networks to form narrative identity – and how modern cultural forces like social media, status-seeking, and consumerism can hijack this process.

    Additionally, Taylor has earned the Distinguished Teaching Award from the University of Oregon. He also creates public-facing content, including The Cellular Republic, a lecture series that demystifies cognitive and social neuroscience. Now preparing for a postdoctoral fellowship in the Netherlands, Guthrie continues to explore how identity transformation – at both individual and collective levels – could support meaningful responses to today’s ecological, psychological, and cultural challenges.

    Show Notes & Links to Learn More

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    00:00 – Taylor Guthrie, Works,

    03:27 – Social Cognitive Neuroscience

    04:07 – The Neuroscience of Identity

    04:47 – Structuralism

    04:57 – Self-Relevance Effect, Related study

    05:42 – Ventromedial prefrontal cortex, more information, Role in self-processing

    06:12 – Study referenced on Individual Reference Frames

    06:27 – Brain activity and blood flow

    06:52 – Accuracy and Reliability

    07:37 – Neuroeconomics, Value-based choice

    08:17 – Equanimity

    09:17 – Default Mode Network

    10:12 – Temporal components of identity

    11:22 – Self-regulation, Value systems

    13:07 – Self-determination and intrinsic signals

    15:47 – Synaptic pruning and child development

    16:42 – Neuroplasticity and aging

    18:06 – Default Mode Network organization unique to humans

    18:27 – Default Mode Network and Temporal Integration

    19:07 – Origin of Default Mode Network

    21:42 – Feedback Loops

    22:02 – Cybernetics (Cybernetical Neuroscience), Control Theory (Neuroscience and Control Theory)

    25:39 – Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Motivation

    27:57 – Ego Depletion Effect and its debunking

    28:37 – Study referenced on Default Mode Network

    31:07 – Motivation and Addiction

    31:37 – Lonelier than we ever have been despite being globally connected

    32:37 – Association between Trauma and Addiction

    33:39 – The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Internet Addiction should be included

    34:36 – Robert Sapolsky (TGS Episode), On Dopamine intermittence and expectation

    36:02 – Dopamine (reward driver), Habituation and Tolerance, Frankly that references it

    37:02 – How 9-5 work life hinders personal development

    37:17 – Elliot Burkman, Identity Model, studies of Identity vs. Goals

    41:02 – The importance of Attention in Intrinsic Motivation, Reflexive attention

    42:07 – Someone on their phone immersed in nature meme

    43:57 – Salience (neuroscience)

    45:22 – Viktor Frankl, alleged quote, origins of the quote

    46:42 – The Will vs.The Way

    47:37 – “Planfulness”

    48:27 – Homeostasis

    48:47 – Insula and the human species

    49:47 – Group Dynamics, What makes a group successful

    50:42 – Émile Durkheim and Gordon Allport – on groups

    51:07 – Dialectic

    51:47 – Neural synchrony

    52:07 – Functional near-infrared spectroscopy

    52:22 – Carolyn Parkinson, Similar neural responses predict friendship

    53:37 – Mirror neurons

    53:47 – Entrainment

    54:22 – Early vertebrates have similar brain regions as early vertebrates, Single origin of the brain

    54:27 – The Brain Is Adaptive Not Triune

    54:47 – Phylogenetic refinement

    55:07 – Frontal lobe

    56:27 – Groupthink, Asch Conformity Line Experiment

    56:42 – Group Cohesion

    1:02:17 – Social Comparison Processes (upward and downward)

    1:04:27 – Emotions as signals

    1:05:25 – Nietzsche perspective on self

    1:06:06 – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Cognitive Reframing

    1:10:17 – Healthy groups have normative structure

    1:10:57 – The missed opportunity of adolescence

    1:12:37 – Netherlands Communal Values, Lower addiction and teen pregnancy rates

    1:13:05 – Importance of healthy risks in adolescence, Rat playground experiment

    1:14:02 – Power of the frontal lobe, Long-horizon thinking is vital

    1:14:37 – Addiction and frontal lobe dysregulation

    1:15:37 – Dan McAdams — Narrative work

    1:16:17 – Redemptive Arc and Contamination — 2 main reactions to trauma

    1:17:09 – Growth mindset

    1:17:24 – Stuart Smalley on “Saturday Night Live” — Daily Affirmations

    1:18:02 – Neuroplasticity

    1:22:32 – Nietzsche’s take on “Thou shalts”

    1:22:57 – Somatic processing

    1:23:27 – The Cellular Republic

    1:27:37 – Slavoj Žižek

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